For the past couple of weeks I've been reading New Psycho-Cybernetics. It was originally written by Dr. Maxwell Maltz, a cosmetic plastic surgeon. He noticed that even after extensive plastic surgery, some of his clients complained of not seeing a difference in themselves. Dr. Maltz began to realize that his patients had "emotional scars" that no amount of surgery could fix. Many people have very negative images of themselves that cripples them and stops them from living the lives that they really want to live. He noticed it first from people who had distorted self-images of their physical apperances and later saw that it could be applied to anxiety, finances, love and everything in between. Basically if there is any area in your life where you aren't happy or it's not where you want it to be, you might seriously analyze what in your self-image could be causing your issues and then challenge it to improve your self image.
Dr. Maltz also speaks of the mind as a goal-striving mechanism. We have to give our mind goals and orders and the same way a computer works is the the same way our minds work to achieve our goals. We have the power to control our thoughts and our lives.
Is is a quintessential self-improvement book that will give insight on how to overcome many common issues. I'll probably be reading this book for awhile because it's very intense, but it's kind of just reiterating what all the other books have been saying: fear, doubt and other emotional scars are getting in the way of our dreams. We need to consciously strive to replace negativity with empowering thoughts, beliefs and our lives will be whatever we desire. We need to stop running on auto-pilot and give our minds goals to work on. What I like about this book is that it gives tons of practical advice about how to eradicate negativity (some of them I've been doing before even reading the book). Something that you can do without reading the book (and something that I do daily) is to take 15-30 minutes before sleep and/or right when you wake up and visualize your dream life. Create a movie of your perfect life in your mind. You might experiment with visualizing as if you're actually in the movie or just as an observer.
Something else I learned is that you have to make a decision. You need to get all the worry out, make the decision and just be confident and only give attention to thoughts that will support your decision. Second guessing yourself or getting frustrated will only prolong the process.